The Rubber Band Tool
Hi, I’m Brian Noble, CEO of Peacemaker Ministries. And today I’m going to introduce a tool that will help you distinguish between healthy tension and unhealthy tension. We call it our Rubber Band Tool.
We’re going to look at how we distinguish between healthy tension and unhealthy tension both in organizations and in your personal life as well. Let’s start with the scripture first.
Ephesians Chapter 4 Verse 14.
As a result we are no longer to be children tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness and deceitful scheming, but speaking in the truth in love we are to grow up in all aspects and to him, who is the head, even Christ, from whom the whole body being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.
So Paul is encouraging the Ephesian church to not be tossed around by every doctrine that comes their way. And when we look at the Scripture he says this, he wants us to speak truth in love. Now, this is amazing. He takes two ingredients – Truth and Love – and says we need to combine those so that there will be a proper working of each individual part. This truth is foundational for us today for the health of our relationships and for all that we want to go through. Now Peacemakers has come up with a simple tool to illustrate this biblical truth.
We call it our rubberband tool. We simply say this, that a rubber band has three states. The first state is this: it’s a relaxed state, where tension isn’t being used. It’s kind of like love without truth. The second stage is what we call aiming our tension at someone else. It’s improperly used tension where we aim all of our problems or all of our concern or our energy at somebody else that is unhealthy tension as well.
But what was the rubberband created to do? A rubber band was created to hold things together or properly use tension to bring us closer together. That’s speaking the truth and love. Now here’s what is exciting. You could take a team and begin to help them evaluate and understand what it means to speak truth in love by simply picking up the Peacemaker Rubber Band Tool and walking them through. Talk to each other. What are you doing where it is so much love that it’s not enough true. What are you doing or communicating that it’s so much true that it’s not enough love? What are the specific actions that you are taking that speak both truth and love?
Those are the things that will bring you closer together. So pick up your rubber band and begin to evaluate together. God bless you and have a great day.